A message for Doctors

I was reading one of Libyan blogs when I came up with some thoughts about practice of medicine and the relationship between physicians and patients. I personally believe that such a relationship must be natural and simple as much as it could be. I also think that there are many physicians misunderstand the concept of medical practice and they are not conscious of what’s called malpractice. Here is something that I would like to share and hope it can help to clarify it:

Around this part of the world they have some pillars in medical practice succinctly abbreviated by "PEARLS". P - Partnership: meaning make the patient like your partner and work with him throughout his illness as win-lose business type, you share the loss and the winning. E - Empathy; which includes passion and sympathy; expressing it and working with the patient and his/her family in a manner that shows your human side, meat and flesh. A - Apology: sorrow, not infrequently you would say “i am sorry, i have to tell you - to the patient - we found a positive test for HIV or a cancer or a serious illness" or you would say " I am sorry for your pain or loss. I know this position is difficult for you" the last part is admitting the difficulty and suffering the patient have. That will alleviate the stress or the burden on the patient. R - Respect; self explanatory, showing respect and careful attitude with the patient.... Much like back home when we deal with the patients with strength and fairness, or special manner showing more or less " Ezzat Annafs" in a very saddle way. L - Legitimization: making the patient feel he has the right to doubt and contemplate his medical problem or complaints. The patient is not to be blamed for his misfortune. Give him/her the benefit of the doubt. Nonetheless, you may correct his / her mistakes softly and peacefully. S - Support: This is given by the fact that Medicine’s important role is support. Not only showing it but also expressing it regardless of ethnicity, religion, skin color, personal belief or other stuff - appearance, behavior....etc. The main point here is making the patient feel that you are there to help and care. Believe me i got a lot of success just saying to the patient or his/her family " I am here to help you, or make you feel better" or Sometimes, when the patient give me alot of hard time i would just say "I am trying to help here and I need you to let me do that or we can't go forward " or " I would always be here to treat your illness any time" in some occasions.

Another important part of your success “ Dear Doc”, not only knowledge and updated medical evidence, more importantly is to get acclimatized to the term “Professionalism" - guess what it is? It is: "Special skills possessed by a special character in a special occupation that requires special knowledge to provide special care and meet especially high expectations like those in Medicine".
Finally,Don’t forget to keepsmile, this is an important and special skill, which medical professionals should possess, so please keepsmile

I got engaged!!!

Ho...oh...

My life will never be the same
‘Cause, girl came and changed, The way I walk; The way I talk
I cannot explain the things I feel for her, but she knows it’s true
Ooh, it feels so right. I’ve searched for the perfect love all my life (All my life).
Oh, ooh, it feels like I (Like I) have finally found her, perfect love is mine (See, I finally found).
She rocked my world, you know; she did
In time I knew that love would bring this happiness to me!
I tried to keep my sanity. I waited patiently...
Who’d think that I (Oh) have finally found the perfect love I searched for, all my life (Searched for all my life). Such a perfect love that’s so right...

Hey!!
Finally I’m engaged! I didn’t mention it on my blog before, but I was in Libya for vacation (my first time since long time) and I had been planning to pop the question for quite a while. My apologies to the many friends — even close ones — who I didn’t tell. I wanted absolute air-tight secrecy! Special apologies to those whom I flat-out lied to when they asked me if I was going to propose on this trip.
It was really hard to make decision about this absolute turning point in my life. I personally I have been studying women carefully from all aspects for long time, before I decide to get through. I have studied women from literature point of view, chemically, mathematically, statistically, and I have studied physics of women as well. From my study -as shown in illustrations below- I have concluded that - even with those negative references and regardless the unpleasant results and those misfortunes- “Woman without her, man is nothing”. Although some people would say that “Woman without her man, is nothing” I can’t deny that, ‘Cause , that sounds true as well, doesn't it?!
However, I finally found the perfect love that I’ve searched for all my life; and I've decided to spend the rest of my life with her “en shaa Allah taala”. My beloved fiancée is an absolute gem. She is Libyan girl from Tripoli (originally from Al3orban, I don't know where that place is; Maybe in Western Mountain!). She is smart, she has a dazzling smile, she's keen since of humor and much more.
Our engagement made on last Feb 14, an extraordinary day by itself, but that was only the beginning.

Let's see and talk about those studies
Here is the evidence with illustrations. Enjoy and keepsmile
Note: "Maybe My girl doesn’t belong to this ..."

Element Name: WOMAN
Symbol: WO
Atomic Weight: (don't even go there!)

Physical properties: Generally round in form. Boils at nothing and may freeze any time. Melts whenever treated properly. Very bitter if not used well.

Chemical properties: Very active. Often unstable. Possesses strong affinity for gold, silver, platinum, and precious stones. Violent when left alone. Able to absorb great amounts of exotic food. Turns slightly green when placed next to a better specimen.

Mathematically: this paragraph shows my proof (axiom or Moosalama)

Statistically:
Statistics shown here are from retrospective studies (reference of experience of many married guys for decades). I don’t think that my darling would go under such category, but that’s not due to statistic biases for sure; “thats just because we just got engaged”…


Notice how the chance - of a man to win an argument- drops down from about 90 % before engagement to 30% at engagement period and to almost 0 % after marriage







Historically: Women were a problem through Eras, since the era of Siedona Adam “peace up on him” up till these days. They're still the same, banat Hawwa never change!

Literary: The Arabic notion that says “Behind every great man, a woman” seems to be a fact, but guess why, or for what? Answer is: "Behind every great man a woman to destroy what he has made or built…





Woman Usage: Highly ornamental. An extremely good catalyst for dispersion of wealth. Probably the most powerful income reducing agent known.
Caution: Highly explosive in inexperienced hands.


I hope that I haven’t insulted or offended any one, those are just my own views, I just tried to bring the subject in a cheerful friendly attitude. Maybe the evidences that I brought in here go wrong and never exist anymore. I personally don’t care too much about realism. I really respect women for what they are. I have nothing against woman, and I apologize if done wrong way, but I know before anything they are our mothers, sisters, aunts, wives, and our kids’ moms’ en shaa Allah.
I hope that every youth man and woman find his/her soul mate, and all get married and live in sa3ada wa hanaa and get dozens of boys and girls, And they all keepsmilin'


May Allah bless all and forgive us, May Allah make it easy for all and make our dreams come true. Amen…